The myth of the undesirable Black woman will just not go away.
The idea sounds wild but it’s not that much unlike arranged marriages. Still, after today, I’m giving the network and their experts the side eye. In a video, where the experts discuss and decide which men to cast for the show, one of the experts said: “Many of our African American men have no interest in marrying an African American woman.
Many of our African American women want husbands who are of the same race.
They are successful, they are ambitious, they are beautiful.
We want to have the opportunity to match them.” There was even a montage of three Black men who said they preferred not to be with someone of their own race and then three Black women who said they preferred to be matched with a Black man, as proof. And relationship expert, Paul Carrick Brunson, took to his Facebook to cape for Black Love and scold the “Married At First Sight” folk in the process.
We consistently had an abundance of what we considered to be rather amazing African American women and little to no African American men to match with them.
In addition, very frequently, African American men in our applicant pool across all three seasons expressed deal breakers around NOT wanting to be matched with African American women.Whatever this might or might not represent in terms of the greater population is certainly up for debate and interpretation. He said this trend that the “Married at First Sight” people are just now discovering is not new. Brunson was sitting in front of a bookshelf, but he might as well been on a stage so he could drop his mic.As many times as we’ve heard and seen this narrative, I should be numb to it. Brunson said that though he highly respects the expert in the video, he could not support what she said, especially when the greater implications of her words are hurtful and harmful to the community. It’s not supported by any data.” An expert for the show contacted Brunson explaining that the statement was referencing their applicant pool specifically and not a statement about the nature of dating trends in the general population. Joseph Cilona came through and tried to insult Brunson.But still, watching it, I felt a sense of betrayal and then sadness for these brothas and their latent and blatant self hatred. “This show, that has an incredible platform has done something incredibly disgusting… He wrote on his Facebook page: Hi Paul, It should be emphasized that these comments are in reference to African American men in our applicant pool.This segment shows everything that’s wrong with television when it comes to these dating reality shows. And the reason why is because they did it simply to get people talking, to demoralize us and to be provocative. [A total of three men.] There were no generalizations made to other populations…or claims that our experience should be made to other populations.However, you might be interested to know that we observed this to be very clear and a specific trend, not only in our matchmaking attempts in Atlanta for season 3, but also in both season 1 and season 2 in the New York area.