This approach can morph people into the commodities of others' consumption. Individuals can be intensely "in love" one minute, and not at all later, simply based on appearance. This approach goes against almost everything our body, mind and the Net convinces us is real.
Often, people are in love with "being in love" not with you at all. It's good advice to ask for many photographs, so if physical attractiveness is important to you, a balanced look at someone over time and in many contexts is achieved. Don't project an illusion of a person from one image. The most pain, hurt, brokenness and distress caused online by people attempting to find the divine within each other, is a misunderstanding about the voracity of emotional online connection, and an abandonment of what true love really is.
Many people today are turning to the internet as a tool for finding a partner.
The Internet has strong advantages but there are some serious pitfalls .
A "surfer" can immediately focus on people with similar interests, beliefs, age and other important criteria without having to spend time and money "going for coffee." Non-matching people can be sidestepped without ever needing to make contact.
It's "partner shopping" in a global supermarket of humanity.
There is no denying that online dating has become hugely popular in the 21st century, fed by the emergence of social networks that have sprung up all over the internet.
Although online dating was popular before the likes of myspace and facebook were even thought of, these 2 large social platforms along with many other smaller scale communities such as Twitter have galvanized the presence of dating websites, making them very much a normal part of the whole dating scene.10 years ago people may have been shocked or at least surprised if you were to say you met your girlfriend, boyfriend or partner through an online dating site, now people reply in an almost unsurprised or even expectant manner if you mention online dating as your chosen method of seeking out someone special.Meaningful dating can be done at a distance, even in other countries.Relating thru writing (emailing) is a quick and efficient way to learn a lot about a person and how they tick, with minimum initial commitment or investment face-to-face and is the heart of effective online dating.If a "surfer" is not witty or doesn't write well, online dating can be difficult.Prospects often circulate constantly thru a host of sites. This can make for cynical or dismissive prospects with little care for how their rejections or non-contact affects the feelings of others. Most humans are addicted to initial flirtations and the "drug" of being liked, appreciated and wanted. The connection is based on internalized and selfish feelings, often projections of what we are looking for, rather than what the other person is actually like.