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Near the end of many therapies, when the trauma has been cleared, the distressed ego states have been integrated, and the clients are making concrete changes in their lives, many single clients think about finding a mate.
They turn to online dating, which brings up piles of therapeutic issues: "Am I lovable, attaractive enough, capable of finding someone who will be good for me, etc." Here is my best dating advice to them: As a therapist, I get to make therapeutic hay out of many dating issues.
While clients are dating we may work on self-esteem, self-awareness, assertiveness (just say no!
), worthiness, attractiveness, and differentiation. Often, I find that a client's baby ego state is going on the dates, looking for a mommy in the other person.
Her plan, an attempt to dupe her ex-fiancé, who dumped her a couple years prior, proves to be her undoing.
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