A flurry of other books dealing with teen dating came out a short time later. So...dating, if done to God's satisfaction, can be a relationship that not only honors God but also helps you draw close to Him through the person you're dating. No book, TV show or magazine will give you the truth regarding teen dating. This is saying we shouldn't get close to those whose character stinks. )The storm of outrage against dating produced a book that encouraged teens to "kiss" teen dating goodbye and go with another option. God doesn't look down on relationships that honor and glorify Him. Everyone has opinions on teen dating (and you know what they say about opinions...they're like armpits...everybody has them..they all stink!
14, 15.)The point is..have nothing in common spiritually with unbelievers. You may win them to Christ..you most likely won't "date them to Christ."Date Christians who can understand what you go through..tough times..good times..times of prayer..times of rejoicing. Does the Bible have any advice for the teen dating scene in the 21st century about touching? Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. And to remove any doubts...verse one (1) speaks of not "touching."Unfortunately, this verse has been abused by many well-meaning Bible teachers. This doesn't mean a guy should never, ever touch a girl. The word "touch" has been used in other places to mean "starting a fire." No..isn't talking about the time you went on that romantic date and knocked the candle over setting your girlfriend's formal on fire. If you can remember what the new word is, you can remember what the first letter of each word in the phrase is. That verse is age specific about "children" obeying their parents. You're "young adults." And some day, you're going to move out on your own..from under your parents authority..live your own life.
Casual contact and a helping hand are still allowed. That's not the kind of fire Paul is talking about here. Just keep in mind, God's Word tells us to avoid intimate touching until we find that special marriage partner God has led us to. Don't get me wrong..long as you live with your parents..are their children! When that happens...verse one changes in application to Ephesians 6:2. That doesn't mean they'll always be right..then you need to leave that up to God.
Paul is talking about an "emotional fire." I guess you could call it a "fire of passion." Touching in an attempt to get your girlfriend or boyfriend "in the mood" isn't acceptable Christian behavior. The world has no problem starting "fires of passion." But we aren't like the world. Verse two isn't just for children...it's for everybody..adults. When Paul wrote this, he was quoting from the Ten Commandments. He's put your parents where they are as your...parents!
In the next few days...we'll look at a few helps on teen dating... God's Word clearly tells us to stay away from close relationships with unbelievers. Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? Dating shouldn't mean "mini-marriage." You aren't really married, so don't act like it. The teen dating story goes something like this...1. Teen declares he/she can "change" that person or lead them to Christ or...5. They were deceived into thinking good character would rub off on bad. If you're a guy..a Christian girl who you know has God's will in view.
But there are definitely relationship principles in the Bible that can help us figure out what's right and wrong in this messed up world. The way you do things now in your dating relationship will influence the way you react to the one you marry. Which leads us to our first principle on teen dating.1. or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? Hurrying things won't help your dating relationship. Don't get sloppy in your dating relationship by going too fast. Going too slow more than likely won't hurt your dating life. Don't forget what Proverbs 19:2 said..one who hastens (that is goes too fast) will ultimately find himself (or herself) wading waist-deep in sinful sludge. And it seems to have the worst consequences in teen dating relationships. The bad influences you allow in your life will form you into who you are more than any good influences you try to use to counter the bad. Date those who have dedicated their lives to living as Christ would have them live.
But this storm is as real and destructive as any of those we talked about above. Yeah, I know the Bible doesn't have the word "dating" in it. You don't need the problems of a close relationship right now. Someone else put it this way..."Haste makes waste."I doubt the person who said this had dating in mind..it definitely applies. But I will tell you there are a few verses in there that come very close to saying that about teen dating! Another way to put it would be..."You hang out with spiritual losers..become A SPIRITUAL LOSER."This is not to say we shouldn't have casual contact with unbelievers. Working with young people for the last decade, I've seen this play out a lot. In fact, it normally caused that person a lot of problems. Or..."You hang out with spiritual losers..become a SPIRITUAL LOSER."It's true..character is only as clean as the people you hang around with. But as a teen, should you completely lose dating and find other "safer" options? The best and only place to go for good advice about teen dating is the Truth found in the Bible, the Word of God. And keep you're most serious feelings for that person who is worthy of them..person you one day marry. And I can't say it's a direct quotation from the Bible. Hanging around with bad company will harm us spiritually. I want to make sure you undestand how I set this thing up... These are just a few examples of the power God has placed in nature. As we said before, teen dating isn't specifically mentioned in the Bible. God talks about His close relationship with His people (v. I didn't mean for this to be "Intro to French." And that's not literally what that phrase means anyway. Stick with me.) these words carry the idea that government isn't to interfere in places it doesn't belong. Too many times I've seen teen couples with their hands all over each other..in public no less! Notice verse two talks about everyone having their own spouse. Some day he or she may become someone else's husband or wife. Sure it was in a different time..what if dinosaurs were still walking the earth when your parents were dating (just kidding! And they know more than you..matter what you think! What you do with the life God has given you....that's the gift you give back to Him. Read...study...apply God's Word to your life...especially when it comes to teen dating. It wiped out the entire city of New Orleans leaving a wake of death and destruction never seen before in that country. Only doing what God tells us...obedience to the Bible..glorify Him. The next few days you'll notice many of the lessons cover a lot more areas of life than just dating. In your life...including your dating life..need to ask God first. That said...let's talk about some principles about teen dating. It does talk about relationships though...including teen dating. Before you engage in physical contact...remember that the person you're becoming intimate with may not be your spouse. That counts more than outward appearance in relationships... You're only deceiving yourself if you do anything else. And they were teenagers in teen dating relationships at one time. Don't feed your soul only once or twice a week at church... But I wouldn't read the whole study at the same time. It would be best to have your Bible handy for this Bible study. I don't always reference the numbers of each verse. It opens in a new window so you can study the Bible lesson and God's Word at the same time! Ask anyone on the street a few years ago what a tsunami (pronounced su-NA-me) was, and they would probably give you a blank stare. And not long ago a huge hurricane hit the southern coastline of the United States. Every relationship you have should first honor and glorify God. I'm talking about every aspect of your life should be based on biblical principles. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you, And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty. In fact the passage doesn't say anything at all about marriage. If their character is flawed, they're spiritually ugly and weak. Date Christians who have proven their Christian character. The truth is...they've done a whole lot more living than you have. The best way to keep it right is to live the Word of God..to live the Bible you need to know the Bible..to know the Bible you need to study it. You don't feed your body once or twice a week to keep it going! If you have a hard time understanding it..may want to use your own Bible for clarity if you or your church uses a different version. Just click here for almost any Bible version you want. So..you noticed what's been going on in the world the past few years? But first...a quick message from our commercial sponsor...(Ok...maybe not. )Let me just share this little bit of advice with you again... Notice this covers everything not just teen dating... for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Teen starts dating girl/guy of questionable character. Teen is confronted by the spiritual leader in his/her life (such as pastor, youth group leader..get the picture.)3. But rememer the verse above..doesn't work that way. If you're a girl..only guys who model strong Christian leadership skills in their lives. It doesn't matter what kind of figure or how athletic they might be. It's your spiritual meals that keep your soul alive.