This gal lives on her own and is trying to cope with raising her children, and dealing with her ex.About 3 months into our friendship she kissed me and things progressed slowly from there.We have now been very involved for about the last nine months.
Frankie, I became very good friends with a gal from work. We became very close and were both recovering from nasty breakups.
My break up was from a girlfriend of 10 years, and hers was a breakup with her wife of 15 yrs.
I have been single now for almost 3 years and she has been single for 1 1/2 years.
Her ex is a doctor with a very dominating, controlling personality.
I feel like being with her is what is best for me, but I also realize she is essentially running the show.
I know that she is very scared by her past relationship and is trying to work out those issues. But after all we did say we would live each day as it comes and just enjoy the love. I feel like I am a bit invisible at times, like I am the secret girlfriend..in the closet so to speak.I did tell her that, a few months back and she said, NO, you are not invisible and YOU are very important to me.She has been clear with me from the first kiss that she cannot "handle" a relationship. We agreed we would just take all of this one day at a time, live in the moment and enjoy what was happening.Sometimes she will call me her girlfriend, but we don't talk about that term too much. As time has passed our love has grown and I feel like I want more.I would like to talk with her about being committed girlfriends in an exclusive relationship.I do not want to lose her, but I also know I have to do what is best for me.