I’ve read your profile, and I think you sound nice…” …is way less engaging than this: “What!! Especially online, when women maybe a little more on-guard, opening with a comment on their physical appearance runs the risk of seeming shallow and off-putting.
It says “Hey, I might be sort of interested in you, but I’m going to let you do all the legwork.” Don’t give her a nudge and expect her to then message you, because she probably won’t.
This isn’t a cover letter for a job application; there’s really no need to be formal.
Girls on online dating sites really can get bombarded with messages, and at that point, they’re not really likely to spend more than 15 seconds quickly scanning through a message before decided to keep reading or not, . ” Later, once you guys have gone back and forth a few times, you can feel free to write longer, more involved messages.
A message that reads: “Hello, nice to “meet” you, I’m John. You might think it’s flattering, but in general women don’t like to be approached like that.
So girls and guys must have drastically different experiences with online dating.
The girls post a profile and get bombarded with messages from guys, guys scan profiles and message the girls.
So, do you have any advice for how to get my message to stand out? Most dating sites have a flirty option which allows you to express your interest without having to actually message a person.
(On How About We, this is the “I’m Intrigued” button, on OKCupid it’s a wink.) In general, this is not a good way for a guy to approach a girl on an online dating site.
I don’t smoke, but don’t mind if you do…Well, message me if you want to go out.” Messages like this are not only boring (if she wants to know about you she’ll either click on your profile or, even better, ask you), but they give no indication of why you want to go out with her. Try something like this instead: “Whoa, you studied abroad in Ghana? Once she laughs, she lets her guard-down a little, she thinks you’re funny, and probably smart. Did you ask her a question, did you set-up a joke she could build on?
Not that you have to turn into Seth Rogen all of the sudden, but in general, on the internet, humor is far less abrasive than, say, ardent fervor.
I thought I’d share these letters that a paid for dating site sends me. I am a very sensitive person, and I hope that your intention is not to play games with me! I like to walk in the moonlight, and dream of happiness! Speaking of me, I’m looking for someone to share life with; lazy days, laughs, deep discussions, dreams, adventures, embraces, hand holding, heartfelt connection and more. I have so many different ideas, business plans, and hopes for the future family. I want to find partner with whom I will be able to create strong and friendly family. If you are looking for the same things here, please let me know! Most of all I would like him to be faithful, and truthful. I am a compassionate, and caring person, I am devoted to my partner when I am in a relationship.